Dealing With Criticism
To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. -Aristotle
In the span of about 15 minutes, and all before 8 o’clock in the morning, I was given the following feedback today:
1. My post yesterday rambled a bit much
2. I allowed old thinking to creep in, and, as a result, I interacted with my family in a negative way
3. I look odd… and, as a follow-up, some helpful advice: perhaps I should apply make-up before I go into the outside world
(To be fair, #3 came from a 10-year old boy)
In the spirit of comparing self to self, here’s how the “old me” would have handled the feedback: I would have been self-righteously indignant about the first, would have self-righteously dismissed the second, and would have self-righteously retaliated against the third for the rest of the day.
Here’s how the “new me” can, and will, handle this feedback. First, I will not lump them all together and decide that the day is doomed. Instead, I will look at them as individual pieces of information, and decide what to do with each. I will recognize that I regularly ask for feedback with my writing, and I will genuinely take the advice in the spirit in which it was given, and use it to improve my blog going forward.
With the second, I will consider the information, and whether or not I agree with the conclusion, I will accept that we are all entitled to our opinion, and I will respect it for that reason alone.
With the third, I will laugh my ass off, because he is absolutely correct!
Most important, I will see that when a chain of events is happening, they are happening for a reason, and I need to look inward and figure out what is going with my thoughts, feelings and behaviors, since they are the only thing I can control. As I may have mentioned once or twice, there are no coincidences, so I believe that God wants me to figure something out, and, if I choose to ignore this suggestion, the events will continue to happen until I do.
Now I need to go upstairs and put on some make-up!
The candor and perspective of a 10-year old boy (and the fact that I can laugh at it) qualifies as a miracle.
Posted on February 21, 2013, in Recovery and tagged 12 step, 12 step program, Addiction, Christianity, Clean and Sober, God, Health, Higher Power, Mental Health, Miracle, Philosophy, Recovery, Sobriety, Support group. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.