Examining the Family
Today is a day to get things done. Today is a day to make real progress.
Don’t waste your time wishing for what might have been. Get up, get going and make the very best of what now can be.
Don’t get angry or frustrated about the way things are. Get to work and make things the way you would like them to be.
You have an outstanding opportunity right here and now. You can make creative, meaningful and valuable use of your time.
This is your chance to be effective. This is your chance to get out in front of life and to get beyond whatever may have been holding you back.
Stop waiting, stop wishing, stop complaining and start taking positive action. This is a day to get things done, so live it for all it’s worth.
— Ralph Marston
A couple of interesting things came together for me today. First: 12-step meetings. For the past week, I have had the opportunity to be a sounding board to a variety of women who are experiencing frustrations in their family life. The stories are absolutely heart-breaking, because, as someone in recovery, I know full well that the first few months of sobriety absolutely, positively have to be about not picking up a drink or drug. Period. So when you are dealing with stress other than sobriety, it is brutal. I certainly had stress in the earliest days of sobriety, but I was also blessed with an amazingly supportive circle of friends and family who helped in every way they could to make my recovery a success. My heart breaks for people who are less fortunate… people who not only have to learn how to combat their addiction, but also to combat people who are interfering with their recovery. Today in particular I left my meeting thanking God for the gift of my family and friends.
A couple of hours later, I had an appointment with a therapist that, for the most part, I am resistant to attending. Don’t get me wrong, I am open and honest with her, but I feel like I get what I need from my membership in the AA fellowship, so each week this appointment feels like an inconvenience more than anything else. Anyway, she asked me to identify what life events were noteworthy in terms of my addiction. Now there’s a loaded question for me if ever there was one. Which addiction? My whole life has been spent addicted to one thing or another, so to look at root causes I need to go back to an age I honestly don’t remember, examine my family life at a time when I was younger than my children are now, and figure out once and for all why I use external things as coping skills. Basically, the entire hour made me really uncomfortable, which I always take as a sign of progress. If I am resistant to thinking about something, that means it is something I need to examine.
I came home from that appointment, and found the quote I put at the top of this post in my email inbox.
The bottom line: despite myself, I am evolving.
I went to the gym today. Seriously, it is a miracle.
Posted on January 2, 2013, in Recovery and tagged 12 step program, Addiction, Alcoholic Anonymous, God, Health, Recovery, Sobriety, Substance Abuse, Support group, Today (NBC program). Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.