Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem. –Virginia Satir
Today I had three separate occasions where I reviewed the coping skills I use in recovery, so I guess that is a sign I should write on the subject. An inventory of these skills is useful, for a couple of reasons. First, it gives me an opportunity to see how far I’ve come, and the positive steps I’ve taken to handle life on life’s terms. Second, it allows me to see the areas in which I can use improvement. Finally, it reminds me that there are a lot of tools in my tool belt, and, particularly this time of year, it is necessary to remember that I have what I need not just to survive the holidays, but to thrive.
Here are the coping skills I use to help with life stressors. I could write a separate post on each one, but I doubt anyone wants to read for that long. In no particular order…
- Prayer (I can’t stress this one enough, if you are a non-believer, give it a shot, He will meet you where you’re at!)
- Honesty (it just makes life simpler)
- Communication (keeping things bottled up only makes a bad situation worse)
- The Fellowship of AA
- Practicing Gratitude (hard to grab onto when times are tough, but eventually it works)
- Reaching out a hand to help someone (nothing gets me out of my own head faster)
- Remembering that I live One Day At A Time (this is the one that can bring instant relief in times of stress)
- Keeping structure to my day
- Practicing restraint (taking a breath and waiting to communicate until I can do so effectively)
- Focusing on the solution rather than the problem
I hope everyone reading is having such a stress-free life that they need no coping skills at all; if not, I hope this list helps someone out today!
Posted on December 12, 2012, in Recovery and tagged 12 step program, AA, Addiction, Alcoholism, Coping (psychology), Education, fellowship, Health, Life Skills, Mental Health, one day at a time, Recovery, Stress, Support Groups. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.