The Pros and Cons of Reaching a Goal

To get through the hardest journey we need take only one step at a time, but we must keep on stepping. -Chinese Proverb

Today I was able to attend a meeting for the first time since early in the summer.  I also got to chair the meeting, since the scheduled chair did not show up.  So it has ben a rewarding day thus far.

I picked a reading that meant something for my personal recovery, which is the importance of calling people in the AA program.  It is important to me because it is something with which I have struggled since day one.  I am not a phone person (people reading this who know me personally are rolling their eyes and thinking “tell me something I don’t know”).  Anyway, I share about my struggles, and everyone else in the meeting shared theirs, and what was interesting to me was that it is an issue that can go on for years.  A man with 2 months spoke of his struggles to use the phone, and a woman with over 30 years spoke of the same issue.

It just made me think, there are so many times in life that we have this goal for which we are striving… continuously abstain from drugs or alcohol, lose 50 pounds, run 3 miles, have a big conversation with an estranged family member… and we work up to it, and we accomplish it.  Then what?  Sometimes I get a little let down after I reach my goal.  Like when I take 2 hours to clean a kitchen, and 5 minutes later someone spills orange juice all over the floor.  Or I wash, fold and put away 4 loads of laundry, and then walk by the washing machine and see a new set of dirty clothes next to it.  I can get the feeling of “what is the point because it never ends anyway.”

So I need to remind myself:  the point is the gratifying feeling of achieving a goal, no matter how small or large, and the reminder that all of life is about the journey, not the destination.  If I reach one goal, then guess what?  It’s time to set another one.


Posted on September 7, 2012, in Recovery and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. Wonderful, thought provoking message. All the tiresome tasks accomplished and then undone is all about having a family. It is at times frustating, but we are all on the journey of life and the best is yet to come.


  2. I have a hard time transitioning to my next goal too particularly after achieving a big one. I will come back to this post because with my job it is a race to the end of the month, then the quarter only to start all over again. It is constantly changing and yet redundant at the same time.


  3. For me, this was the best post you have made. Thanks


  4. I absolutely love your last paragraph. What a wonderful powerful well written message. Thank you.


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