Everything Happens for a Reason
My favorite AA meeting occurs every Friday morning. It is 30 minutes earlier than my normal weekday meetings, and the location is a bit further from my house, so during the summer, it can be tricky to make it on time. Today was such day, and I realized that I would be late, but that I could arrive early at a different meeting that started a little later. I considered it, but decided that because it is my favorite meeting, and it is only once a week, I would rather be late to it than early for another meeting.
AA etiquette dictates that if you are late to a meeting, you should refrain from sharing. This is not a hard and fast rule, but I was not feeling any burning desire to share, so I figured I would respect it. However, because attendance was so low, it quickly came down to basically only me who did not speak, so I figured it would be more important to participate than to adhere to etiquette, and I shared my thoughts. I prefaced my comments by admitting that since I have not started the steps (the topic of the meeting was about step 7), I don’t feel like I have a lot of personal insight, and in the course of my speaking I mentioned that my sponsor would like me to wait until I have 6 months sober before I begin my step work.
As soon as the meeting ended, someone with whom I have a passing acquaintance approached and asked me why my sponsor was having me wait for 6 months to begin step work. An interesting question that I have asked myself numerous times, but have ultimately decided that I would follow her lead. I answered him honestly, and he gave me another way to look at it, a way that made quite a bit of sense. He wanted to introduce me to his friend at the meeting, because his friend’s wife is a long time member of the fellowship and often takes women through the steps. I looked over and the man to whom he was referring is someone I know very well, whom I have been inspired by since my first week in recovery, and whose AA words I hang on to every time he speaks. I know his wife by reputation, as she is very well-known in the various meetings I attend, but have never had the privilege to meet her.
My concern was that while I would love to go through the steps with someone experienced, as this woman obviously is, I would never want to hurt my sponsor in any way, since she has been an absolute godsend to me. Both understood my concern, they are both sponsors themselves, but explained that many people choose to go this route, working steps with one person, and yet having your sponsor for all other matters. I did not understand that was a common practice, and was elated… this was the perfect solution to a dilemma I have been mulling over for some time now, and I did not realize the solution existed!
I left that meeting amazed once again at how life works, feeling as if I turned a corner in my recovery, and filled with anticipation for the new chapter that I am about to start. It gives me a feeling not only of gratitude, but also of hope, and it is even more exciting to relive it by sharing with you!
Posted on July 13, 2012, in Recovery and tagged Addiction, Alcoholic Anonymous, Alcoholism, fellowship, God, Health, Meeting, sober, sponsor, step work, Substance Abuse, Support group, Twelve-Step Program. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.