According to the “Big Book,” the bible of AA, resentments are the “number one offender” of alcoholics continuing in their addiction. In order to achieve peace and serenity, it is essential for addicts to learn to identify and remove all resentments from our lives.
That seems like a pretty tall order to me. I have been hearing people in recovery speaking about their resentments since I walked through the doors of AA. It continues to amaze me how in touch these people seem to be with the resentments they’ve apparently had all their lives, and how much better they feel now that they have learned to deal with them.
As a person still new to recovery, when I hear all this talk of resentments and how connected these resentments are to addiction, I hit a mental brick wall. I guess I can think of a resentment I have here and there, but I don’t feel like I have this big mountain of them, nor have I made any connection between these supposed lifelong resentments and my addiction.
But I do know this much: AA has not failed me yet, so if the Big Book says that resentments are the number one offender, then I just haven’t connected enough dots in my life, and, given the proper time and introspection, I’m sure I will figure out that I have the same (if not ten times more) resentments festering inside me that all of my fellow program members have learned to rid themselves of.