Doing Things When You Don’t Want To
So, I guess the title pretty much says it all, and this is definitely a topic that applies to more than just recovery. Pick a topic… cleaning, exercise, eating well, working, family issues, errands… the list is endless of things in life that we don’t want to do.
But sometimes the things we don’t want to do are more serious than others, and the stakes are higher if we don’t do them. I recently visited a relative recovering from surgery. The recovery is really rough, and it is so ridiculously unfair that she has to deal with these issues at all. Like so many things in life, there is no conceivable reason why she is going through this illness at all.
And yet… that’s pretty much life sometimes. I can relate this, in a very roundabout way, to my own recovery. Not the “life isn’t fair” part, because I brought my issues on myself, but that feeling of “I just don’t wanna!!!” with regards to various parts of my recovery. And, like my relative, I could skip elements of my daily recovery, but at what cost? There are things I need to do, on a daily basis, whether I want to or not, and if I fail to do them, I will lose my recovery, which means I will essentially (and possibly literally) lose my life.
So when I look at it in that context, are the sometimes annoying little things I have to do each day really that annoying? If I say, I can go to this meeting for one hour, or I will die, if I look at it in from that viewpoint, how hard does that task seem? It becomes incredibly silly to resent doing something that will ultimately give me the life that I want. So, as with all things, doing the things I don’t want to do all becomes a matter of perspective.
Posted on May 3, 2012, in Recovery and tagged 12 step, Alcoholics Anonymous, All Things, Hardware, People, perspective, Philosophy, Recovery, Storage, Support Groups, Twelve Step, Twelve-Step Program. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.