“The arrogance of success is to think that what we did yesterday is good enough for tomorrow.”
― William Pollard
Yesterday someone said to me, “I don’t know what emotion could change your mindset in an unhealthy way.” My first thought was complacency… it just popped into my head. I then went to a 12-step meeting, and guess what the topic was? Since my tagline is “there are no coincidences…”
Complacency is an issue at any stage of recovery. It is the feeling that “I got this.” Unfortunately, the story is told often in 12-step meetings, how someone has gotten some decent recovery time under his or her belt, and decided he or she did not need meetings anymore, that other areas of their lives were more important than recovery, and the back slide began.
In thinking about this topic, I realized that it applies to every area of life, not just recovery. Resting on our laurels in any aspect of our lives… our health, our relationships, our careers, our family, is the first step in the erosion of that area. Think about it… if you just decide that your marriage is okay the way it is, that no further effort needs to be made, how long is that relationship going to last?
So how to fight complacency? I would say two things are needed… questions, and action. Daily I ask myself, “am I doing all I can for my recovery?” Again, this thought process could and should apply to any area of life. Just as important is the second step… to act on the answer to the first question. Asking the question but not following up with decisive action defeats the purpose. Consciously and consistently performing these two actions will prevent the back slide from confidence to complacency.