A Better Perspective, Part II

In the last post I talked about putting your money where your mouth is… if you are going to have a positive attitude towards life, you have to walk the walk even when issues abound.  But that had me thinking… how to use this newfound positive attitude while solving problems?

This will probably be a recurring theme for me, because it is one I am actively trying to conquer in my life.  So far, I have one mantra that I try to use with any issues that come up in my life.  I have hung it on the fridge as a constant reminder:

If you focus on the problem, the problem increases

If you focus on the solution, the solution increases

Try using this statement the next time you are facing an issue in your life… you will be amazed at how true it is, and how effective it can be.  When I wallow in self-righteousness, convinced that I am completely correct in my thinking and whoever I am railing against is completely wrong, absolutely no good comes of it.  I wind up even more agitated than I was at the onset of the issue, the opposing parties are still thinking or acting the way they want, and usually my bad mood affects innocent victims (usually my children).

However, when I focus on what I can do to fix the problem at hand, amazing things happen.  The most immediate thing this attitude does is calm me down.  And when I am calm, I am thinking more rationally, and am much more likely to be empathetic to those around me.  All these things work together to create an environment where I can find a solution to whatever problem I’m facing, even if it’s as simple as letting it go for the time being.

Try it yourself, I know you will be as amazed as I am with the results.

Posted on April 7, 2012, in Recovery and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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